I was recently able to spend time with one of my favorite people. Well that is really putting it lightly, hero or rock seem to fit a little better. My grandfather, Harold Swords has played many roles in many peoples lives, mainly his family. You will not find one person in our family that does not adore him and vice versa. Like most people he comes in contact with, when we get together it is full of wise cracks, jokes and plain silliness at times. He is the one to blame if I have ever pestered you or shot my mouth off with a wise crack towards you. He is the leader of the pack.
During our few hours together grandpa was telling me about his recent road trip to Arizona where he took my grandma to see her sister. My uncle, Harold jr. drove them across the 5 states from Tennessee. Grandpa was telling me about how fast uncle Harold was driving. He said " I told him that this was a little car and I don't want to push it, set the cruise at 68 mph and leave it". He added " the car slowed down for a few minutes and before long it was back up to 75 mph, so I said forget it". This was not the first time I have heard him talk about going 68 or even 65 mph. I can remember not long after I got my license I rode to Ohio with my grandparents and on the way home they let my sister and myself drive. Grandpa again said those same words "set it at 68 and keep it on the road".
I have thought about this statement the rest of the week and it has lead me to writing this blog. It got me thinking about how in a world where everyone is obsessed with going fast, getting it fast, doing it fast, being faster in every which way can a man have the patience to slow it down. I began to think about the benefits of slowing down when driving. To name a few, you save on fuel mileage, you increase your safety factor (as long as you don't go too slow), you save wear and tear on your vehicle. Remember I am just talking about driving a car. Think about what it would do to your life! Undoubtedly it would decrease your stress level, open your eyes to new possibilities, enjoy life a little better. Slowing down does not mean decreasing activity but rather being more open to new activities that you have never thought of or always wanted to try. Taking a breath and allowing yourself to smile while gaining inner peace that only comes from God.
Slowing down for each person may be different. For some it may be decreased work time to spend with family, others may be getting away from the full time mom role for regular date nights or spa days or getting a job to be more active and build self esteem and get the "needed" feeling back. Maybe it is taking the time to spend a few hours with your grandpa or someone else you admire. Most important all of us need to slow down and spend our time with God each day. This is a struggle for the majority. Life happens and time with the Lord seems to get pushed to the back of the line, if it is in the line at all.
This blog is just a simple reminder to enjoy life, love God and slow down to give the most of both.
Just so you know this blog post is for males. Women are welcome to read it to hopefully learn what a good, Godly man is. But it will be directed to males. I don't want to say men because in today's society the word men is being thrown around to loosely. Just because you are a male does not make you a man. Just because you are strong, or fast or good at basketball, does not make you a man. You may think your a man because you have respect from a group of people. You may think you are a man because you have a good job and pay the bills and put food on the table. Some of these things are important but none of them alone define you as a man. This blog is the short story version of what God says a male is to be to be called a man.
1. The Head (1Corinthians 13:3). You may have heard this before and you may think you know what it is to be the head. Let me take a moment to define this for people who do not know. First let me tell you what the head is not. The head is not the boss, the master, the king, the chosen one. If males really knew what the head was and how hard it is to be the head and the responsibility it takes to be the head there are many of them that would not even consider taking on that role. They think because they know how to have sex and they found a women willing to defile the act that God made for married men and women, that they are a man. They think because they had sex on prom night that automatically morphed them into man hood. But by the unmistakable biblical definition of what sex is and who it is for, we see that sex does not by any means make you more of a man, you are still just a male. Some males think because they are able to over power a women that it makes them a man. Others think a man is defined by how much possessions they have or how "successful" they are. But again, by biblical definition these things only prove how much of a man they are not.
In writing this i am not trying to play as if I am perfect and I do not make mistakes. One, that would be wrong and a lie, it would also make me a male and not a man. I am fully convinced that there is only one thing that can turn a male into a man, and a man into the head. The Holy Spirit! The only way a male can come to be a real man, he must confess he needs help. He must humble himself and come to a understanding that he needs a savior and he is unable to do things on his own. Step one: Confess Jesus and ask God into your heart. To lead you and guide you in every aspect of life. Step 2: Submit yourself to the Holy Spirit of God. He is our guide and our path maker. To fully hear and understand The Holy Spirit you must spend time with Him and get to know His voice. If you fail to do this, you will soon fall to that trap of "God doesn't never answer me". I have heard it so many times, but with a few questions about that persons prayer life you can quickly find out that they don't know who God is so they do not know when he is speaking. God is not some magician that pulls out tricks to entertain people and never tells them how He did it. Christians who say they talk to God and He talks back are not crazy and "hear voices". They are just in tune with God and you will never understand this fully until you get in tune with Him yourself.
This is part one of Male 2 Man.